kasama ng sakunang nangyari sa Leyte… parang ganoon din ang nangyari sa aming weekend… although syempre hindi naman ganon ka grabeh…
mga pangyayaring mahirap ikwento…. pero….
eto na ang pangalawang beses na nakita ko ang sarili ko sa mahirap na sitwasyon… sa pangalawang beses, kalmado pa rin ako… eto nga’t sige pa rin ang smile ko… ang wrinkles… hindi naman kaming mag asawa ang me problema pero ang mga kafatids nya… hay naku… kaya siguro yung buhok ng asawa ko namumuti na masyado…
feeling ko para akong psychologist o psychiatrist (ano ba difference nyan?) nakinig ako sa magkabilang panig ng dalawang mag kapatid na matagal tagal ding hindi nag kita… ano ba ang gagawin ko kung parehong matigas? hayaan ko na lang ba sila? ang sabi nung isa, magdusa sya dahil sya ang may kasalanan at nasa ganyan syang predikamento…. para tumino kailangan kalimutan nya ang dati nyang gawi…. wag nang makipag kita sa dating mga kaibigan, hindi pwedeng lumabas ng bahay…. etc etc… ang panig naman ng isa masyadong mahigpit kaya sya nagrebelde…. hindi nya makausap ang sarili nyang kapatid…. parang gusto nya sa kabila ng mga pinag gagawa nya para mag stay sya sa bahay dapat maligaya sya kung hindi aalis na lang sya ulit. sa kabila ng mga pinag gagawa nya dapat wag syang sigawan at pagalitan at sermonan ng kapatid nya…
sa mga ganon palang sitwasyon nakukuha ko ring huminahon… nakukuha ko rin ang loob ng isang tao, nakakapa iyak pala ako at nakakapa tawa sa isang tao… parang loko loko ahihihi…
hindi ko alam ang gagawin ko… hindi ko rin alam ang maipapayo ko… syempre meron rin akong secret agenda pero pang ibang post naman yun…
hay buhey talaga… parang life…
feeling…
usually, other people’s blogs inspire me to write about what I think about what they wrote…
today, I read about someone looking to hire a helper at home. while this is common in my native country… I just feel like I have to say my piece…
before coming here to Canada, I grew up with a helper or a maid as it’s otherwise known. I have four other sisters, therefore having 2 yayas is sometimes not even enough… having someone to clean the house for you, cook for you, wash your clothes for you, iron them for you, sometimes even give you a bath (when you were younger I assume…) is just natural, and it feels like you’d be helpless without a maid… who’s going to do all that right??? not you, who have to go school, then do homework at night… or not you who have to go to work the whole day therefore you’d be dead tired after work… well, I just think I’d say something because, when we came here to Canada, you had no maid…
the dishes arent’ going to wash themselves, so will your dirty clothes, the house doesn’t self clean, your wrinkly clothes doesn’t self iron, your food doesn’t come from the grocery cooked and ready to eat(except the tv dinners, but who likes eating those?) are you handicapped that you would NEED a helper to do all that for you?
at age 13, I learned to do all that and more. I learned to clean the house, wash the dishes, do the laundry, iron my own clothes, and later on cook while going to school, having a part time job, doing homework, going out, etc etc etc…
then why do people need a helper? that, I can’t understand anymore… in fact, when I came home to the Phils a few years back, and all my relatives had their own maids, I wasn’t used to them anymore… I got so used to clearing the table ourselves after dinner that I was doing that in the Phils, and my relatives got this confused look on their faces? like, “why are you doing that?” and when they did clear the table, I was like “thank you” “thank you” and they seemed surprised! I wasn’t used to asking them to get me anything, I’d rather do it myself… and they(the maids) were surprised… and I heard my cousins barked orders to the maid… even just to get them a glass of oj… I felt and thought that they were spoiled rotten…
now that I’m married, have my own house, and have a toddler(almost 2!) I still can’t think of myself having a maid… well it’s uncommom here in Canada… but what IS common here is that eventhough you’re married, have your own family, have a house of your own, have a full time job, it is still you at the end of the day who does everything… sure, your hubby helps out here and there… but don’t you feel useless when things that you could do yourself is done for you? I don’t know, that’s just my opinion here…
I have a sister that’s left in the Phils… she’s a single mother with 2 sons… one is almost a teenager the other one turning 11… she doesn’t have a helper… she works full time… and she does everything… with the help of her sons of course…
heniways… my house IS a little messy at times, dirty dishes might be left in the sink overnight… laundry might be left piling up at times… but when I do all that, it gives me a sense of accomplishment and a feeling that I can do anything… 
